This Is Not A School

This blog entry was written for the Alternatives to School blog, where it was posted on January 22, 2015. 

By Ben Draper


We opened the Macomber Center in 2012 as a resource center for self-directed learners.  Most of us had come from a democratic school background so naturally some people assumed that we were taking the first steps towards creating a democratic school.  What started to interest us, however, was not the potential to move towards something familiar, but the opportunity to explore something new.  We wanted to remain open-minded and flexible about what we were doing and how we might evolve.  There are plenty of alternative schools out there; we wanted to provide a genuine alternative to school.

From the very beginning, we rejected the idea of school. We had no interest in having to enforce an attendance policy, which all schools — even democratic schools– have to do.  We wanted kids to be able to come and go freely.  We wanted the center to be used only as needed and not to hold kids back from pursuing other interests out in the larger community.  We were not interested in handing out diplomas either.  We didn’t feel that kids should need our stamp of approval to move on in the world.  Instead, we felt that they should be the ones to determine when and how they were going to make the transition into adult life.

As a resource center, we provide an environment where the natural curiosity of kids is given free reign.  They are surrounded by acres of natural space and are given the time and freedom to explore.  They have access to the essential tools of learning: computers, books, art supplies, musical instruments, and science equipment.  They also have access to knowledgeable, helpful adults.

One thing we share with the democratic school model is a strong emphasis on community life.  People tend to think of a resource center for homeschoolers as a place where kids get dropped off for regularly scheduled educational activities.  This is not what we do at the Macomber Center.  The kids do not come here merely to take part in individual activities, but to live their lives fully as members of a vital community.  Even the kids who come only two or three days a week become important members of our community.

So if kids do not come to the Macomber Center for specific activities, how do they spend their time here, and what is the role of adults, if it is not to teach classes?  The kids here spend their time engaging in all kinds of different activities.  For the most part, they pursue their interests on their own and with other kids.  There are also many activities that kids and adults do together: they play music together, they play games like bananagrams, and they also play outdoor games like tag, soccer, and frisbee.  They eat lunch together, engage in conversations and so on.

As for the traditional teacher/student relationship that exists in almost any educational setting, at the Macomber Center this relationship has to be understood within the context of self-directed learning.  In the course of pursuing their various interests, kids will sometimes ask an adult for help.  There is often a considerable amount of time and energy spent in conversation just trying to clarify what exactly the interest is, the best way to pursue that interest, and what the role of the adult should be in the process.  This is not just a preliminary step but an important part of the process.  Learning how to articulate exactly what the interest is and figuring out how to pursue it can be the most useful and satisfying part of the whole experience for the learner.  Sometimes the best way to help kids explore a subject is to organize a class, but even when classes are formed, they can vary widely depending on what makes sense for a given subject.  Often the role of the adult is not so much to “teach” but rather to help the kids plot a course and help keep things moving in a productive direction.

The great thing about the resource center model is that it is so flexible.  These centers are continuing to pop up all around the country, and they are all different.  They take on different shapes depending on the needs of their community and the background of the people who create them.  Everything, right down to the land they are on and the building they are in, influences the way the programs at these centers develop.  It has been exciting to see how the culture at the Macomber Center has evolved in ways that we, the people who started it, could never have anticipated.  It has taken on its own life and transcended our ideas and theories about what a resource center should be.

The Creeps of Animal Mansion

"Okay, so the pizza resistance appears on the prairie. Now, how does the pizza resistance make the witch disappear?" I usually have to block out a certain amount of activity and noise if I need to concentrate on something like entering the weekly schedule into the online calendar, which is what I happened to be doing when these words broke right through that barrier.  So how does the pizza resistance make the witch disappear? This was Mark's question to Aurora.  "They squeeze it" said Aurora.  "They" being the two main characters in Aurora's latest script for The Creeps of Animal Mansion.  It was Mark's job to transcribe while Aurora dictated to him. Aurora is a 7 year old who spends most of her time creating games and stories and roping as many kids and adults into her imaginary worlds as she possibly can.  She has as little  need for the distinction between child and adult as she does for the distinction between  fiction and reality.  Lately, she has been working with Mark to give her stories a cinematic form.  She has written, directed and acted in a film series entitled Space Thieves, about a small crew of outer space explorers whose spaceship is invaded by burglars.

As Aurora sat eating her cashew nuts and narrating this elaborate plot to Mark, and Mark sat intently recording every detail, I thought to myself, where else would this meeting of two kindred spirits be possible; Aurora, who likes to run around outside wielding large sticks and dividing up territory, and Mark Bell, the former front man for the legendary 80's rock band, Thunder Train and an amateur film-maker with a passion for zombie movies.  What struck me most as I sat watching them work was not how different they are but how much they respected each other.

Grilled Cheese

By Mark Bell


First a bit about our sandwiches.

We sell them once a week to help fund the Center's performing arts programs. Most of the members like to eat them, many also like to work the line on sale days. I'm able to put a lot of people to work. There are a bunch of jobs available on the line. Front of the house needs a cashier, a raffle ticket distributor, a plater, and at least one root beer float assembler. Sometimes I hire a bendy-straw kid too. Twenty minutes prior to opening, this same crew works back of the house: hot line (2 people), ice cream scooper (one or two) and pickle slicer.


Once hired, I give every worker a very specific description of the responsibilities of their station. A minute later they're on their own. Work on most any assembly line is fast paced. The action ramps up almost immediately. But a rhythm is achieved. Soon enough you're just flying along. I clearly remember my first cooking job, working on the line at the Back Bay Hilton Hotel. It was 1986. During the World Series. The Red Sox foes (The Mets) were staying at our hotel. Endless orders. I immediately got lost in the weeds. Buried under a stack of food slips.

The executive chef stood back and said nothing. He let me work my way out of the jam. I learned important lessons that first night. Preparation, prioritizing and keeping focused. And like my executive chef I learned that once the line is rolling it’s usually best to stand back, say nothing and let the workers do their jobs.


Each spot on any line requires a different type of skill and level of engagement. Like Henry Ford, I believe a good spot exists on the line for everyone. Especially beginners. Week to month workers can advance through the line, mastering different stations, staying ahead of jams. My workers don’t always get the job they want. They work anyway. I draft workers on occasion. Not everyone feels comfortable boldly asking for employment. The draftees usually join in, curious to take part in this popular weekly enterprise. Everyone flying along together.

After the Hilton I went west to cook at Beverly Hills Hotel for two years and then Boston Harbor Hotel for six more. Between preparing thousands of meals I learned the ropes of sanitation inspections, mise en place, “clean as you go”, sharp knives and how to dance in the kitchen. The Center’s weekly grilled cheese line operates using the same principles I employed while working in numerous professional food and beverage outlets.

“Can I work? …Please?” I like to hear the kids say those words. I hear them every week. Kids like the taste of a real-world work experience. Please excuse me now. Gotta draft two more kids to run the raffle drawing. And another to make a poster for next week's grilled cheese day.

A Flexible, Dynamic Structure

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In his book Freedom and Beyond, John Holt criticized the kind of structure that school imposes on students and teachers alike. "It does not grow out of and has nothing to do with the life and the needs of the class, what the children want, what the teacher has to give. It is dropped on them like a great glass box." The kind of structure that develops naturally in a self-directed learning community, on the other hand, is flexible and dynamic. It evolves with the interests of each child and each adult. It "...helps people to get things done, helps them to live, work, and grow. It does not squelch life. It enhances it." We all know how highly structured school has become, every step of the day scheduled literally down to the minute. At the Macomber Center we do not impose any kind of structure on how kids spend their time. In fact, some would call what goes on here “unstructured learning”.  But I think this is a misnomer, there is always a structure.  It's just a question of what kind of structure, and whether the learner is in control of that structure or whether the the learner is controlled by it.  Last year this structure became quite complex and refined.

To the best of my memory, this is how it all began. When Dan Dick first joined the staff, people immediately recognized how much he had to offer. The kids were eager to take advantage of his experience and skills, his time and energy was soon in high demand. In the morning, when everyone was excited to get outside and start organizing games, Dan was wide open and available. After lunch when things began to settle down, Matt was ready to go get Dan for a harmonica lesson, Ally was ready to work with Dan on math, and Dan was already “dissecting computers” with another small group of kids. This caused a lot of frustration.  Because Dan was wide open and available in the morning, the kids figured they would come find him later when they were ready, at which point he only had about 45 minutes left and everyone wanted his time.

We decided to design our own, extra large calendar/daily planner which has now been through about four iterations, each more finely tuned to our specific purposes. This allowed the whole community to coordinate our various endeavors, large and small. By the end of the year the calendar was chock-full and anyone could see at a glance what was going on where. It started to feel like a really well coordinated operation, everyone working together to help each other pursue interests and ambitions most effectively.

As the kids settle back into the community here, I am trying to just sit back and watch as things begin to take shape. As eager as I am to see that delicate and intricate structure reappear, I am reminding myself that this is a new year and that a new structure will emerge organically in response to new demands.  Who knows what that will look like.

That's Showbiz!

By Mark Bell This December the Macomber Center will present our first Wintershow. A musical variety show featuring our members. Last April’s Springshow drew a great crowd and was a real hit. The cast members from our variety shows also enjoy acting in films we produce here at the Center.

Most exciting for me is seeing the fall-out that occurs around and after these productions. Kids huddle together dreaming up their own movie roles and stories. Some write their own scripts and even film scenes of their own. Kids put together their own dances and perform for their friends. Some sit at the piano and work out melodies. Several of them formed a rock band and began collaborating on songs while sticking to their own daily rehearsal schedule. Being a performer is fun but it gets tough as you progress. The inner discipline and time investment required to learn a dance step or play a musical instrument is formidable. Adding more people into the mix and creating a rock band or dance group and delivering a finished project to the stage is truly a feat.

I look forward to producing the Wintershow and Springshow along with some new movies at the Center this year. The cast members still enjoy working under my direction - and seeing how I get out of jams. But after my productions wrap, the kids keep the train rolling. Growing creatively under their own direction. That is what satisfies me the most.

Teaching Classes At Macomber Center

James Style Since I began working at Macomber Center in the fall, my responsibilities (in addition to heading up the Frisbee department, overseeing the Lego collection, and assisting in domino design) have largely been devoted to teaching a series of classes. This has been fun and challenging both personally (learning to teach kids of different ages in a unique, self-directed learning environment), and institutionally (working in concert with other staff to provide a framework for these semi-formal classes to take place in a way that respects the often informal nature of the center). With the year having just ended I have been in a more reflective mood, trying to figure out what worked and what did not, and trying to articulate everything I have learned.

Like any true insight in life this has mostly involved the long, tedious process of realizing the blindingly obvious. A good example of this was realizing that the definition of a class is not as obvious as it may seem, and that each kid often has their own idea about what a class is. How long is class? How often does a class meet? Is there homework for a class? How does a class actually function? For kids who may never have been in a class before, and who are expected to take an active and independent role in their own learning, their ideas of what a class is and how it is supposed to take place may be highly idiosyncratic, not clear to others, and yet the subject of strong feelings. Failure to realize this can lead to confusion.

Of course like the students I have my own assumptions about what a class is. When these clash with student’s ideas novel situations can arise. Early on I realized that my own idea of a class - where a teacher writes on a whiteboard while students calmly and passively listen - was quite absurd. During class I was often either joined by several students happily writing next to me on the whiteboard or, in one case, asked to hand over the marker so the student could write on the whiteboard while I spoke. This was a little disconcerting as the whiteboard helps me focus and organize what I want to say, and yet it also makes perfect sense as it helps the students focus and organize what they are hearing.

Disagreement about the nature of a class can also lead to confusion. Earlier in the year, for instance, I noticed sometimes that what I was offering and had prepared was not what the class was expecting or wanted. When working one-on-one, these differences are easier to overcome because the class can be readily adapted to the specific interests of the individual kid (I can, for instance, relinquish the whiteboard to the student). In group settings, however, these differences can be trickier to overcome because not only is there the confusion between myself and the kid, but also between the kids themselves (maybe, for for example, one kid is distracted by multiple people writing on the whiteboard). This is particularly true when leading classes with kids of different ages. Not only might each kid desire something different from the class or understand the material in different ways but their fundamental assumptions about how a class should work can be different. Of course, no one is more right than any other.

How should we deal with this? Learning (and this includes teaching) at Macomber means being entirely open-minded about what a class is and how a class should function. It is not my role to tell the kids what a class is or how a class should function. More and more, however, I do view it as my role to challenge kids to be clearer about what they want a class to be and how they want a class to work. A class at Macomber is not a fixed thing either in my mind or in the kids' minds; everyone involved has to take an active role in shaping it. Some kids can be very specific about what they want; others less so. In addition to asking important nuts-and-bolts-type questions such as “how long do you want to meet for?” and “how often do you want to meet?”, I want the kids to think about things like “what are the goals of the class?” and “how will we know those goals are being met?”. As the kids gain more experience with classes I want them to reflect more on what they want and how they can get it both individually and as a group. It is not as simple as getting feedback from kids about how I am doing as a teacher or how the class is going for them (though this is important too) but it is important for everyone to think about how we are doing as a class and we can improve.

Video Games and Democracy


As we draw to the close of our second year, we’ve been reflecting on some of the ways in which our community has evolved. It has been really interesting, for example, to watch how the weekly meeting has taken shape. I had always thought that a self-directed learning community had to be, almost by definition, a totally democratically run, self-governing organization. This meant that no decision, big or small, was outside the scope of the weekly democratic meeting. I remember my impassioned attempts to incite the kids to action; “This is your center, it can be whatever you want it to be! You can run it however you want to run it!”. This went on for a few weeks. Nothing, blank expressions all around. I remember saying to a friend, “They must just not be used to having real power, they think it’s a ruse, but if I’m persistent it will eventually get through to them that I’m serious, and finally they will rise to the challenge and take control.” It took me a while, but I eventually came to accept what was clear from the very beginning; kids want to have control over their own lives, they want to be involved in any decisions that have a clear and direct effect on their everyday experience. On the whole, however, they do not seem to have much interest in the larger organizational issues involved in creating and running a place like the Macomber Center. They care a lot about things like scheduling for the week ahead and figuring out sensible rules for the community to follow, and they will engage actively in the democratic process when these kinds of issues are involved. They could not care less, though, about marketing strategies or hammering out the details of our annual budget. It began to feel more and more that the democratic meeting was not the place for these topics to be discussed, and the kids were all too happy to have the staff take them up on our own time.

Our meetings are much simpler now, more oriented around the practical, everyday issues of the community, and much briefer than they were in the beginning. But the items that come up for discussion now are no less consequential. Recently, the topic of video games appeared on the agenda. Some members of the community felt that video games should be restricted to personal devices and should not be played on the main computers owned by the center. One eleven year old boy, who was unable to attend the meeting, prepared a position paper in support of a motion to ban video games and had it read at the meeting. I’ve included a section of it here with the author’s permission.


“I am in favor of completely banning all video games permanently, and without exception, on the Macomber computer(s). It would be a majorly bad idea to pitch the computer completely, since it’s fast, it’s got Flash, and it can handle programs like Scratch. However, video games are simply a recipe for disaster. For starters, we’ve only got one computer that can actually play them, so everyone’s always quarreling with everyone else about whose turn it is. Now, I’m no hater of video games myself. Matter of fact, I rather enjoy them at home on my free time. But at Macomber, the entire point is to get outside, be creative, develop new skills etc. etc. Video games don’t do any of that, unless it’s an educational game that’s no fun anyway. Also, games are a big suck on the Center’s pool of kids for playing outdoors, card games and such. So even if you can summon up the willpower to resist watching or playing them, you’re still gonna be affected. The biggest problem here is the fact that kids seem irresistibly drawn to the games like moths to a light. If only one kid was playing at a time, this wouldn’t be that much of a problem, but that’s not the case. People sign up for a turn order, but until it’s their turn, they don’t seem to be able to do anything else besides watch other people play.”

This whole thing seemed a bit strange to me. For one thing, the kids who were most against video games being played on the main computers were themselves the ones who had been playing video games the previous week on those computers. I asked them, “Why don’t you guys just make a personal decision not to play games on those computers, instead of making a rule about it? After all, it’s important to be able to make conscious decisions about how you want to spend your time and then develop the discipline to stick to it.” But they stuck to their position.  In the end, maybe this was their way of self-regulating. Since it didn’t really affect me that much, I abstained from voting, and it passed almost unanimously.

These kinds of decisions play a huge role in determining the direction of the Macomber Center. Ultimately we realized that to burden the community meeting with issues that kids have little or no interest in would only cause them to become disengaged from the democratic process altogether. But we have also seen over and over again that when issues come before the meeting which directly affect their everyday lives, they engage seriously in the process. In the end we want kids to learn how to function effectively and get their needs met within an institutional setting. Because eventually they will take this with them into adulthood and they will already know what it means to participate in the institutional structures which shape their lives.

Einstein's Advice

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In a letter to his son, Einstein wrote: “Mainly play the things on the piano which please you, even if the teacher does not assign those. That is the way to learn the most, that when you are doing something with such enjoyment that you don’t notice that the time passes. I am sometimes so wrapped up in my work that I forget about the noon meal. . . .”


Einstein is not simply offering his son the secret to mastering a new skill. We all know that to get really good at something you have to first enjoy doing it; you don’t need Einstein to tell you that. Rather, he seems to be advising his son on a much deeper truth about life, that taking the time to find out what you really love and pursuing it wholeheartedly is essential to the art of living well. Einstein does not say, “this is how I got to be so good at what I do”. He says, “I am sometimes so wrapped up in my work that I forget about the noon meal”. Happiness is the ability to lose yourself in your work, the way that children are able to lose themselves in play. 

Children at the Macomber Center often “forget about the noon meal”. There is a sense of urgency to their pursuits that is not common in other educational settings. The children here spend their time playing in streams, throwing frisbees, writing computer programs, filming movies, studying biology and a thousand other things. It doesn’t look much like school. But for most of our history kids didn’t go to school. Childhood was about playing with other kids and observing and imitating the adults around them. Above all, childhood is about finding something meaningful to give yourself to, something that will keep your curiosity and interest alive.

Having been fortunate enough myself to have had the free time as a child to cultivate my own interests, it is easy for me to accept this idea. Einstein’s message of following one’s own desires and not letting yourself get distracted by what others assign to you, appeals to me on an immediate, experiential level. But for those who are not as easily convinced, consider the reverse; the perils of a life without anything to pour yourself into. When we fail to discover those things that give us direction and purpose, we can spend our lives in a kind of limbo. It’s like being a bit unhinged, free floating through the world, unable to ground our attention. This is why people become so susceptible to all the empty promises for happiness, always being offered in some new form in our hyper-consumerist culture. If we miss the opportunity for meaningful work, we end up looking for pleasure and satisfaction in all the wrong places.

Macomber Spring!

Spring has arrived at Macomber Center, and with it a revival of the wonderful assortment of outside activities enjoyed by our members.  Back when the snow was still on the ground but the days were warming up, we tapped a dozen of the large maple trees on the property, collecting 40 gallons of sap, which we boiled down to one gallon of amazingly good syrup. We all enjoyed more than one pancake feast featuring our own syrup.

With outdoors becoming more green and beautiful by the day, games of four square, base ball, basket ball, and pickle happen daily, and the Tae Kwon Do class happens outside, with green belts being earned and awarded to the entire group last week. Our grounds have so many beautiful places to explore, and this week there was a small stream on the way to the "secret" place that required a stick-and-mud bridge to be built for crossing.


Inside activities included much music making, anagram and bananagram games, cooking, Scratch programing classes, marine dissection and forensic science classes, block building, and some iPad games as well. We are all looking forward to our end of the year pot-luck and movie night, when the latest film made here at the Center will be shown.

How Do They Learn?

Parents who come to see the Macomber Center for the first time are almost always impressed by the beautiful location, the friendly kids, and the Center’s overall calm and happy atmosphere.  And then, naturally, the questions arise, “But what do the kids do all day, what do they learn, how do they learn, are there classes, what role do the adults play in the learning process?” Learning happens all the time and in so many different ways that it’s hard to give a single concrete answer.  First, it is important to make clear that the adults are not here to steer kids in any particular direction but to help them access the world in ways that are meaningful to them.  Second, much of the learning that happens here takes place without any adult involvement whatsoever and very often even when adults are involved it is through informal activity and conversation.  We do not place any more value on formal learning activities than any other kind of activities.  Having said this, there are also plenty of opportunities for formal learning for those who may find it useful, enjoyable, or engaging.

Last year there was a small group of older kids who came to the regular Monday morning meeting and said that they wanted a biology class.  This was not something that we had ready to go upon request, and it was also not the first time I had heard someone expressing the desire for some kind of formal science class.  So this year we hired James Style who has previously worked as a researcher at Woods Hole Marine Biological Laboratory. So far his two classes, Marine Dissection and Cell Biology/Forensic Science have been the most popular classes this year.  As the kids have come to know James better, they have become aware of his many other interests and competencies.  He has a formal background in philosophy as well as ancient Greek and Latin.  So pretty soon he was teaching a Latin class which has now split into two separate classes and, most recently, he has been asked to do a logic class which has become an unexpected blockbuster.

James’ initial two science classes are a fairly clear cut example of classes coming about from a formal request from the kids.  But this is not always the case.  Sometimes classes begin to take form in a much more organic and gradual way.  One of the wonderful and unique things about working at a place like the Macomber Center is that, just like the kids, the adults are also free to be themselves, to follow their curiosity and to pursue their personal interests.  In fact, this is one of the ways that kids are exposed to different ways of thinking and new ways of doing things.  One day I was reading an article called “Mystical Anarchism” by the contemporary philosopher Simon Critchley, when Amanda, a fourteen year old “Goth”, asked me what I was reading.  I showed her the article.  She took it from me, looked at it for a moment and then handed it back saying, “Can I read it when you’re done?  "Sure", I said, and kept on reading.

A few days later she asked, “Are you done with that article yet?”  “What article”, I said, having forgotten our conversation.  “You know, the one about Anarchy.”  “Oh, yah, I finished it," I said.  “Was it good?”  “Yeah, it was great.”  “So can I have it?”  “Of course," I said, “I’ll bring it in tomorrow.”  I guess I hadn’t taken her request very seriously the first time.  After all, what would a fourteen year old girl want with an article about medieval Christianity and revolutionary political movements?  Anyway, she kept on me about it until I finally brought the article in.  I handed it to her and said, “Don’t feel like you have to finish this, it’s really long and kind of dense.”  “You think I’m an idiot don’t you,” she said in her typical deadpan, half-joking sort of way.  “You think I won’t be able to understand it.”  I assured her that it wasn’t a question of her being smart enough, I just wasn’t sure whether she would be able to relate to the material.

Boy was I wrong!  When Amanda returned the article to me a day later, she told me that she read the whole article and then shared it with her father.  She said they both really enjoyed it and discussed it at length.  I asked her what she liked about it.  It turned out that many of the questions and ideas that the article brought up for her, and which she found so engaging, were precisely the kinds of things that I have been interested in for a long time.  So we decided to do some reading together.  Every week we would read one or two short articles and then discuss them.  After a month or two of this, we decided to pick a particular area of interest and then go deeper into it.  When I asked her what that might be for her, she seemed to have a definite sense that there were some common strands within everything that we had been reading, a sort of theme, that she found compelling, but that she was also having difficulty articulating.  This was really exciting for me to see because it meant that she was onto something totally new and unfamiliar, something not yet in focus, but that she felt compelled to investigate, and that's such a wonderful place to be.  After some time of trying to tease it out, it seemed to me that what we were talking about had something to do with the psychological underpinnings of religious and political movements.  “It sounds to me like we need to start with Freud," I said, and so we did.

Every week I would give Amanda a book to read and she would read it.  She always did the reading and never missed a single meeting.  I have to admit, I was pretty amazed by this.  Sometimes she would tell me that reading Freud made her brain hurt but she never seemed to have trouble doing the work.  One day, as we were getting ready for our meeting, Alex and Aidan, two of Amanda’s good friends, announced that they were joining the “Psycho Readers” class.  I had written “Psycho Readers” , a haphazard abbreviation for “reading psychoanalysis,” on the board outside the room which is used to reserve the space.  But Alex and Aidan thought that this term was hilarious and so insisted on being included in our “class”.  If there were two kids who I could not imagine engaged in a serious conversation about Freud it was Alex and Aidan and they were clearly playing on this irony when they entered the room, sat down and said, “Ok Draper, teach us something.”  Since they hadn’t read anything for that week, I suggested going over Feud’s system in general.

First, Alex and Aidan had not heard of Freud.  They knew what psychology was but had never heard the term psychoanalysis.  So I started from the beginning, making notes on the whiteboard as I went.  Some of it clearly struck them as pretty strange.  In particular, a brief explanation of the five stages of psycosexual development ilicited everything from fits of laughter to outright rejection.  But the Oedipus complex was by far the strangest thing that they had ever heard.  As I began to timidly lay out the scenario of a little boy who adores his mother and fears his father, I realized that I just couldn’t bring myself to complete this strange Freudian scene, fearing that it might make these kids too uncomfortable.  So I moved to the more remote, and therefore easier to handle, Greek myth of king Oedipus.  But evidently I had already revealed enough because Alex, by now having put the pieces together, stopped me and said, “Wait, let me guess, he kills his father and marries his mother”.  All three of them erupted in laughter.  Alex was of course joking, rushing to the most absurd conclusion he could think of.  Little did he know that he had inadvertently hit the nail on the head.

What began to be clear to me was that, for all the jokes, sarcasm and irony, these kids were really engaging with the material.  Joking around, making puns, turning sentences and ideas on their head - this is how these kids process and master the world around them, and they were deploying all of their highest capacity resources on this material.  After a couple of weeks, Amanda took me aside and told me that, although she liked the psychology class, she felt that it was restricting the scope of our reading and conversation.  She said that she wanted to return to our original format but to also keep the psychology class going with Alex and Aidan.  So now there are two separate events and they both grew out of very spur-of-the-moment, casual interactions.

I could never have guessed that this material would ignite Amanda’s interest in the way that it has, or that Alex and Aidan could have ever been turned on to Freud.  And for their part, I’m sure Alex and Aidan never would have signed up for a class on Freud.  And how would Amanda have stumbled onto these interests if she were not free to follow her curiosity in a rich and diverse environment?  But the bigger point here is that this is only one example of the kids of encounters that are happening all the time at the Macomber Center.  They are part of the fluid and dynamic activity of every day.  Yet they are not easily observable unless you are part of it.  They are also not the kinds of things that kids are likely to go to the trouble of explaining when their parents say, "So, what did you do today?”  It’s even hard for me to talk about unless I very consciously sit down and try to put into words what exactly happens.  Here I have tried to do precisely that because it’s hard otherwise to really do justice to questions like “Do you offer classes for the kids?”

Winter Days

So much has happened at Macomber Center over these past cold weeks. We have enjoyed many return trips to Wachusett Mountain, where skiing and snowboarding happen on a weekly basis. There was excellent sledding on our campus for a few weeks, before the rain melted the snow away, leaving icy, bare ground in its place.  Skating at Loring Arena is a weekly occurrence, and recently a large group of our members paid a visit to the new Sky Zone trampoline park in Westborough, and jumped for an hour! Just before our winter break, seven kids completed the first level of the tae kwon do practice they have been learning since October. 

There has been much music-making at Macomber, with saxophones, harmonicas, guitars and piano all being practiced on many days. Ongoing biology and latin interests have persisted, and different levels of math have been explored.

We had a wonderfully successful Movie Premier Night, with dinner served before the showing of the latest movie produced at Macomber Center - "It Happened On Horrible Hill",  a fictional tale loosely based on Framingham history and its connection to the Salem Witch trials of 1692. The film featured Macomber Center kids - over 80 people came to our event, and a fabulous time was had by all!  We are looking forward to our next film, already being produced!

November News!

Macomber Center members have been busy over the past few weeks - we had a wonderful Halloween party, made some delicious pumpkin pies, played a lot of music on a variety of instruments, and moved deeper into exploring the wonders of biology.  A weekly class in Tae Kwon Do took root, and is progressing with a core of members gaining greater knowledge, physical and mental, with each session.

We spent an afternoon hiking in the wooded acres behind our building, in search of the Witch Caves, small boulder caves used as shelter by people fleeing the Salem Witch Trials of the late 1600's.  Another few days were devoted to making paper beads, with the goal of providing clean water for villages in Tanzania - a challenge supported by the Bezos Family Foundation, which provided funding in exchange for every twenty beads received.

Bingo became an unexpected favorite inside game! Our newest member brought a set in one day, and everyone ended up playing a card or two. And of course, many hours were spent outside, playing four-square, Newcomb, back-and-forth tag and basketball. Finally, we firmed up plans for our first trip (of many!) to ski and snowboard at Wachusett Mountain in Princeton, Massachusetts, reported to be opening this weekend...

Apple Pie and Leaf Piles!

Two sure signs of Fall were on display at the Macomber Center this week - piles of apples being turned into fragrant, delicious pies for lunch, and piles of leaves being constructed for jumping into! Many hands made short work of peeling enough apples for four delectable pies, which, served warm and topped with vanilla ice cream, disappeared in short order.

Our Center is encircled by woods full of falling leaves calling out to be raked and gathered into piles high enough for jumping in, and that was the activity of choice on this beautiful crisp autumn day. We are surrounded by such a wealth of natural beauty at the Macomber Center, and the kids find many ways to engage with and enjoy this lovely corner of town.

Lonesome Lake!


Early on a rainy June morning Ben and five hikers from the Center set off for an overnight stay at the Lonesome Lake AMC Hut in the White Mountains. By the time they reached the Basin parking lot where the van would stay, the sun was out, and James Style was waiting to join the group on the trail up to the hut.  According to Ben,  "James is a scientist and naturalist, as well as an avid outdoorsman. So he experiences the outdoors through that lens, and when we take a trip with him we get a glimpse through that lens too."

The hike up to Lonesome Lake wound through Spring-green New Hampshire woods and involved crossing over more than one stream racing down the mountain. "It was really fun crossing the rivers", Calvin said.

Once at the Hut, backpacks were left in the bunk rooms, and the kids were off to jump in the lake! Martin reported that the lake was much warmer than he had expected it to be. After a wonderful hearty dinner served by the Hut staff, the group hiked around the lake before turning in for the night. James Morningstar reported that the stars were unlike anything he had ever seen.

The next morning a hot breakfast was provided, and the hikers packed up, said goodbye to the Hut staff and set out on the Fishin' Jimmy trail headed for Kinsman pond, and finally to North Kinsman peak, the highest point on the trail. Lunch was eaten, feet were rested, and then the group headed back on the Kinsman Pond trail which met up with Cascade Brook trail, at the bottom of which waited the van. A great trip was had by all, one which we hope to do again in the Fall.

Macomber Center, Last Week!

We had an extra-busy week last week, as we prepared for the Saturday Movie Premier and dinner party here at the Center.  The weather was beautiful all week long, resulting in many outside activities - games of capture-the-flag and four square happened almost daily, with one such four square game involving roving players on rip sticks and roller blades, to add to the excitement! Walks were taken in the beautiful Spring-green woods which surround our building, while some inside games happened too.  Settlers and Bananagrams are among the favorites, along with ping pong, plain and musical!

We had a delicious spaghetti feast on Wednesday, making a lovely meat sauce from scratch. Nicole Gareau came by after lunch to show interested kids how to make fabulous fabric flower clips for their hair. Then on Thursday, Mihoko, from Saori Worcester Studios brought two of her looms to the Center, and the kids learned how to weave Saori-style - unique woven pieces were produced, one of which was long enough to grace our buffet table on Saturday evening.  Many kids had a hand in making this colorful runner, and it certainly added a note of beauty to the table!

Saturday evening was our big night - two movies, made by Mark and the kids, were shown here at the Center, after a wonderful meal of quiche, plentiful salad, and ice-cold lemonade made from fresh lemons squeezed by Nell! She worked hard! As the sky darkened after everyone had eaten their fill, the tables were cleared and put away, the move screen was pulled down into place, and the room was transformed into a theater. The two movies that followed were the perfect end to a lovely evening, and were enjoyed by everyone! What a talented bunch of actors appeared on screen - huge thank you's to all of them, and to Mark, for creating such excellent entertainment!

This Week at Macomber Center!

What a packed week! Filled with Magic playing, cookie baking, airplane making, and flying too, of course! And then on to capture-the-flag games, skate board, unicycle, scooter and rip-stick riding, four-square games, and all manner of card games, British and Scottish accents included as a requirement!  And let's not forget the delicious waffle feast for Tuesday lunch; toppings on hot-off-the-griddle waffles included fresh strawberries, whipped cream, chocolate sauce, blueberries, vanilla ice cream, and two kinds of syrup - maple and blueberry. Wednesday started with a flurry of interest in building model airplanes, necessitating a trip to the crafts store to get supplies of balsa wood and glue.  A couple of high-flying, creative designs resulted, with aerodynamic adjustments being made along the way to successful flight. The beautiful weather prompted outside art work - our fabulous easel, generously donated to us at the start of this year, is easily moved outdoors for landscape painting.  Another lovely Open House happened on Wednesday afternoon, with 15 new kids visiting the Center, and having a wonderful time meeting our members and exploring our beautiful grounds - until the torrential rain arrived at the end of the day!

Thursday evening saw our first Macomber Center Social, an event including good food and music and fun for all who attended. The rain storms that raced through the day stopped for our evening, which allowed people to enjoy being outside and inside at the Center.

Friday morning we set off for a trip to Skyzone, a trampoline gym in Norwood, for a ninety minute jump session. We have been to the gym twice this year, but have not reserved such a long session before today. It included a 3-D dodge ball game, played by about twenty kids for at least 45 minutes - non-stop action! Everyone had a fabulous if exhausting time, to finish our week at Macomber, which included one new member and a visiting teen, hopefully soon to be a member!

Being Better

Written by Sandra Dickie

As we as a nation debate and discuss ways to make our children healthier, we have failed to tap into one primary source of change – our schools. Traditional schools are not healthy places for children.  Research shows that physical activity, healthy eating patterns, and supportive families are essential to children’s health. But traditional schools are set up to work in direct opposition of these needs. Children are confined to desks with limited access to indoor or outdoor play. Children are rushed through meals whether or not they are hungry. And family time suffers with hours of homework each night. There is no room in the “core curriculum” for this core concept of wellness. So why is there no outcry? Families value the health of their children, but continue to send their children to traditional schools. There is a discrepancy between what they believe and what they do.

In my work I help people to quit smoking. A patient who otherwise values their health may also be a smoker. When asked if they have ever thought about quitting, they may respond “I’m good”. The patient assumes this is the end of the conversation. As a practitioner, I cannot let this be the end of the conversation. So I work to bring to consciousness the discrepancy between smoking and their other beliefs and goals.  What are the downsides to smoking? How would their life be better if they didn’t smoke?  This plants the idea that there is something else they should consider. I don’t stop the conversation just because they say “I’m good”. The patient is totally in charge of the decision about whether or not to quit, but I get them thinking about change.

As advocates of alternative education, we can use similar ideas to get families thinking about change.  It is too easy for people to go along with the status quo and not think about the possibility of alternatives to traditional schooling; too easy to say “I’m good” despite being in an unhealthy situation. We cannot allow the conversation to end. Let us challenge them to embrace a new paradigm for education that aligns healthy living with learning. Let us help them see that one is not exclusive of the other.

How would your life be better if you did not spend every night fighting over or reminding your kids about homework? How would your kids’ lives improve if they could spend hours outdoors, running and playing and exploring?

If we want families to embrace alternative education, we must show them that it is possible; we must remove barriers. The idea of leaving the traditional school environment can be overwhelming – it is all most parents knew for themselves and is what everyone around them embraces. But tangible alternatives do exist.

Even families embracing alternative education could challenge themselves to provide a healthier environment for their children. In our world children are rarely able to play independently in their neighborhoods and playgrounds. And yet they need this freedom to grow strong and healthy in mind and body. Families desire such an environment for their children; they speak longingly of ‘back in the day’ when this was the norm. But most parents are challenged to provide it for their kids. Such places of independence and freedom do exist, and we should be encouraging families to see this possibility for freedom.

Resource or self-directed learning centers like Macomber Center are forms of alternative education that provide children with a healthy, supportive environment where they can grow independently. These centers do not have any agenda other than freedom and respect.  What a child gains by spending days a week at a center is freedom and independence, and consequently healthy growth. Members join a group of independent homeschoolers of a diverse range of ages, with adults serving as role models and helping as needed. By offering this resource, these centers empower working families with the option to choose homeschooling. Children are welcomed into an enriching environment during parents’ working hours. This experience is supplemented by whatever learning the family pursues at all other times of the week. Part of the beauty of these learning centers is that families, and only families, decide how to school their child when they are not at the center.

My friends in traditional schools battle against homework and sacrifice family time every evening and weekend. Traditional schools are not healthy for children; they are not healthy for families. We need to introduce a new educational paradigm. We need to gently suggest that families contemplate the possibility of not being in traditional schools. Most of us long for a world in which our children have the freedom and independence we experienced growing up. We remember running around inside and out with a pack of friends of a variety of ages. Something like this is becoming available at learning centers. Solutions do exist; we can embrace them.  We can help more families move towards alternative schooling for the health of their children, and consequently, the health of our society. We cannot allow the conversation to end just because someone says “I’m good”. We can help them be better.

Macomber Week In Review!

This was a packed week at Macomber Center - the final shooting for our second feature film took place, and it is in the process of being edited for the World Premier happening on Saturday, May 18th, at 7pm!

Planning continued for next week's Macomber Social, a first-time event for kids including music, food and new connections, happening on Thursday evening, from 7pm on.

Jeff Hyman joined us on Tuesday to demonstrate expert plasticine modeling! Kids tried their hands at building everything from hammerhead sharks and people to Sponge Bob Square Pants and houses. We had a wonderful music workshop occurring that same day, with Carol Hughes, Dan Dick , Ben Draper and various kids all making music on a keyboard, conga drum , guitar  and bass, plus vocals!

Mid-week we celebrated the birthday of our Member twins, Sam and Lillian, with balloons, made-at-the-Center chocolate cupcakes, and ice cream, followed by a bubble-blowing festival outside, with bubbles for everyone on a warm Spring day.

The warm weather prompted renewed outside explorations of our many acres of woods, swamps and fields, and ended with the first fresh mowed grass of the season being put to good use!

The Accidental Homeschooler

By Cindy Morningstar

Homeschoolers are as varied as snowflakes, or flowers in a field to use a more spring-like analogy. We share many common attributes including an intense concern for the well-being of our children as whole and unique human beings, as well as the desire for them to have an education that meets their individual personal needs. Many parents knew from the birth of their first child, and even before, that they would homeschool. Others didn’t give it much thought until they received that letter from the town announcing that their baby had reached kindergarten age and it was time to say goodbye. Still others have become home-schoolers by default, or what I call “accidental” homeschoolers.

Their kids started down the traditional path and all was fine until one day something changed. One unhappy day becomes an unhappy week, the tears flow and parents are scratching their heads wondering what went wrong. And beyond that “what” lies the “what now”. Teacher conferences, IEP’s, doctors’ visits and more, and still there is no peace at home because school is no longer working and something needs to change. Sometimes that change works out within the system, and sometimes a new school is found that better suits the needs of the child. Often, however, the only solution is to abandon the notion of “school” altogether and start down a new path that no one in the family ever expected to be on.

I fall into the last category, though my unsatisfactory experience with my son’s preschool was 23 years ago so I feel like I have always been a home school parent. My first-born’s tendency to want to do things his own way, and his unusual appetite for telling long tales during sharing circle did not earn him any gold stars. Instead it landed him in the quiet corner segregated from his peers for the crime of having too much to say. Well, I quickly decided that I liked his independent ways and his long stories so I decided to keep him home with me. Shortly thereafter, I had my last tearful battle with his two younger brothers who were dutifully enrolled in preschool (because everyone sends their three and four year olds to preschool if they want them to have the best start in education, right?) All they wanted to do was stay home and play, and I realized that all I wanted them to do was stay home and play.

So here we are, 23 years later, still home schooling the youngest siblings of those delightful little boys who opened the door to a life I never expected to lead and wouldn’t change for the world.

This is my journey as an accidental homeschooler; what’s yours? Please send us an account of how you arrived at homeschooling with your children. We would like to gather and share a multitude of such stories, each one unique and interesting to those on the same path.

Another Macomber Center Week!

Another excellent week at Macomber Center - trips and cooking and movie shoots and many outside games, inside ones too, all happened in five days that flew by! A number of excellent musical ping pong rounds were played, many games of capture-the-flag took place, and one vigorous kick-the-can encounter (involving neither a can nor kicking that I could see) left the players hot and thirsty! On the one rainy, cool day of the week, we made a fabulous vegetable soup, with many people chopping and cutting up fresh veggies, stirring everything into our large soup pot, then asking every fifteen minutes or so for the next two hours, "Is the soup ready yet??" By noon the answer was "yes!", and we all enjoyed it with fresh bread and butter, for lunch.

We had two visiting members for the week, and they quickly became an active, lively part of our community, playing Settlers and Magic inside, four-square and capture-the-flag outside, acting in the Center movie shoot, and joining a trip to Skyzone for jumping and 3-D dodgeball. A number of our Center members helped with Spring clean-up on campus, loading cut brush and logs into a dump truck to be hauled away to a brush dump.

The week ended with a hiking trip to Mount Monadnock in New Hampshire, on a beautiful Spring day. The hikers reached the summit, climbing the White Dot trail through pine and spruce woods fading to exposed ledge slabs. John Morningstar took this photo at the top! A wonderful time was had by all!